Im a bit late to the conversation, but I've been through that this past year and its one of the hardest things I've had to do but also one of the most rewarding for my own mental. Setting boundaries with your own family members is so difficult.
@Revel Lmao I've been asked what happened to the sweet child that would do anything for them...I grew up thats what lol
@Geek Yikes yeah I've been through that, even gotten physical a few times over dishes. I've worked since I was 15 while in school and often had to come home to cook for two grown adults.
Granny C She's only 50/60 somethin'. I'm just so fucking tired of this shit. I do one little slip up, it's the end of the world. She takes my cousins out, and they don't get back till 11, 12 at night. Never asks me or my brother if we wanna go. My grandfather, the one who died, was in a dementia nursing home, and it was almost 3k a single day.
@Green, that is why I love being an adult. So many people say they miss childhood, but you could not pay me to go back and experience having no control over how people treat me or who I interact with.
Yeah. I mean, I'm grateful she's letting us live in her house, and I don't mind the chores. There's 4 adults here, and five kids. She don't make my cousins do most of the chores, it's always me and my brother. -_-
Nope, can't correct her. It'd start a full on argument, and I'd be called an asshole, or other things. I've tried in the past. That day, she told everyone I called her a bitch, when my mom, who heard everything, had to call my dad. I did not call her a bitch.
The double edge sword about becoming a total independent adult is watching how family learns that they have no authority to hang over me anymore and I can just up and leave conversations. People are learning the hard way that I've dropped my people pleasing act.