Hawkeye Farms said:

Nope not the asshole on that. I've cut family members out of my life for doing similar BS. My older sister for one example I didn't talk to for 6 years after our father passed on. She tried to make his dying all about her, and she couldn't bother to see him at all in the last 5 years of his life. When she wanted to see him, he didn't want to deal with her drama, so I had to tell her Dad didn't want to see or deal with her. She then yelled at me saying Dad would never say that. I told her she could call our stepmother, and our stepmother let her have it for yelling at me while I'm doing everything I can to help out around the house (I had moved back in when my dad got really sick, so while my stepmom took him to doctor's appointments, I was doing the house chores, grocery shopping, and just being a gopher for my dad and stepmom to make things easier on them). My sister couldn't lift a finger to help him at all. Then at his funeral don't get me started on what she pulled then (I'm still rather pissed about it). It ticked me off so much I stopped talking to her for 6 years until she had a medical issue come up with her, then I started to try to mend the fence you might say. However it didn't exactly turn out that way, so I cut her out of my life again, and didn't hear anything back about her until a friend of hers called me and tole me she had died.