I know some of you might remember my old post about a year or so ago about how unhappy my relationship/ I was. Well I finally got the courage to leave him. I'm now staying at my families place while I get back on my feet. They are actually being so supportive (was worried they would give me crap for having another failed relationship). It's only been a couple days but I already feel better. I do feel guilty for leaving because I'm extreamly sensitive and I just hoped everything would work out in the end thats why I stayed for another year.

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I don't know how to not feel guilty and bad because I know this was the right move and the only way for me to be happy again. He isolated me from all my real life friends so now I have no one. we fought everyday about anything that made him upset, it was a constant battle with him.

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I'm starting to make friends through gaming online, that is helping but I need to figure out how to stop feeling bad when I know this was right. If anyone has any advice or guidance to help me threw this tough part in my life it would be great. and how to not feel so badly.

Thanks <3

I know we don't know each other but as a stranger, I have to say, I am SO proud of you. It takes a lot of courage to move on from something like that and seek change, I promise you made the right decision and time will heal absolutely everything. I'm happy to see that your family is supporting you through this difficult time, but truth be told, it should be that way whether they were angry or not, relationships can be difficult and there will be long ones, short ones, bad ones, good ones, just keep yourself going, remember your boundaries and remember it's better to be single than disrespected. As I've said, the best way to heal is just with time, time heals absolutely everything. Perhaps some of these things could aid you though: go shopping and get some new clothes, fresh things for new beginnings, maybe try a new hairstyle, go hang out with some friends, try new hobbies, perhaps it can lead you to meet new people? I know they all sound so cliche but they will definitely help, personally, games and making art have always been the best distraction for me, watching videos, or movies, getting hooked into a series, maybe even journalling or writing. You've got this, and if you ever need to talk or want a chat, my pms are open!
Sending you best wishes and fast healing

Gosh, well done, so brave.

Get out and meet some real life people now. For me in a new town it has been excersise classes. And my neighbours and some sewing classes. But it is slow. But I'm begining to belong. My sister moved and has joined a local walking group, that has broken the ice for her.

Join in whatever floats your boat (& is least frightening).

Maybe some people at work.

Best of luck xx

Kudos to you for having the courage to leave. It was absolutely the right thing to do. Anyone who isolates you from your friends or family does not have your best interest at heart. It's wonderful that your family is being supportive and that will go a long way in helping you move past this difficult time. You did nothing wrong so try to let go of the guilt. If it's possible, try reaching out to some of your old friends. You might be surprised at how understanding they can or will be. I agree with Lumin and ZeroZero on moving forward with new things. You will be surprised at how much better those new things will make you feel. Always take the time to do things that you enjoy, that bolster your confidence and make you feel good about yourself. I've been where you are right now and I promise you it does get better. If you need to vent or just chat, my PM's are always open. Best wishes moving forward!

We're all so proud of you Eagle!! <3 This change is going to be amazing, it may take time, but being able to be happy and have people in your life again is going to make everything worth it <3

Oh my goodness, I didn't realise just how close to home your post will be to me. I was in that exact same position as you, like 9 months ago.
I was also in an unhappy relationship, where I forgave some stuff he did with hopes that it will be all worth it in the end.
I am so glad your family is supportive, that is so important when recovering from a bad relationship. Now, it is still gonna hurt. First 3 months after the break up were painful for me, and even right now I still think of the past, sometimes it being the reaosn why I couldn't sleep.

And I know - it is so hard to not not feel guilty. My ex did some very mean things, it ranging sharing stuff online he wasn't supposed to, then cheating on me. Yet I wasn't able to leave him straight away, thinking that maybe this could be worked around. You will eventually stop feeling guilt, as you realize that you deserve WAY better.